The great tradition of making New Years resolutions is matched only by the great tradition of failing to keep them for most people. That’s certainly something I’ve been guilty of myself on more than one occasion – or more to the point, where I pretty much gave up making new years resolutions some time ago.
But it suddenly occurred to me a few days ago that the ones I’ve made in the past have been practically guaranteed to fail because I’ve been making them about the effects, not the causes. Lose weight is an archetypal resolution, but unless you’re a professional athlete who happened to just put on a few kilograms and you want to take them off, lose weight isn’t a resolution, it’s a wish.
So I got to thinking – what could be a real resolution? One that might help me lose some weight but also intrinsically help other areas, such as a tendency to be a grump at times, or the oncoming storm of my book deal requiring a manuscript completed by December, 2014?
At which point there was only one choice:
I’m most likely to act like a grump if I’m feeling rushed or stressed and want people to hurry up with what they’re doing, or I’m wanting something to happen which will happen in its own time regardless of whether it annoys me or doesn’t.
I’m most likely to resent my work on something if I perceive my progress as not being adequate enough.
It all comes down to patience. Somewhere along the line, I forgot the importance of being patient. Forget the importance of being Earnest, being Patient is far more important. Because with patience comes a greater measure of self tolerance and self acceptance.
And so maybe, if I focus first on learning to be more patient with myself and to those around me, the other things will click into place.
So here’s to my 2014 resolution: be patient.