There’s actually three sides of the marriage equality debate. We normally only think of there being two sides:
- Those who are arguing for marriage equality;
- Those who are arguing against marriage equality.
The third side comes from those who don’t believe and marriage and therefore don’t see the point of the entire thing, and thereby insist the real solution is the abolition of marriage in its entirety.
They’re the Social Justice Warriors of the marriage equality debate.
There are plenty of people who don’t believe in marriage personally who are gainfully involved in the debate. There are those who aren’t married and have no intention of marrying who are saying marriage should be left “as is”, and there are those who aren’t married and have no intention of marrying who are saying that marriage should be extended to support same-sex couples as well.
But there’s this piping, distracting chorus from those who aren’t married and have no intention of marrying who can’t believe that marriage equality will solve anything, because marriages just shouldn’t happen in the first place.
They make about as much sense as someone who looks at “male” and “female” toilets and demands they all become simultaneous access unisex, because they don’t give a damn about urinating in front of someone of the opposite gender they don’t know.
Demanding the solution to the marriage equality debate is to end marriage entirely is a bizarro-world pipe dream – it’s a form of collectivism, “equality through equal loss”.
It’s also a pointless, worthless distraction, and it’s insulting to both sides of the argument. Whether you believe in marriage equality or want to keep the status quo, having someone jumping up and down on the sidelines sanctimoniously shouting “well marriage is stupid anyway!” isn’t helpful.
Yes, they’re entitled to their opinions.
Yes, there’s nothing stopping them from espousing those opinions.
But we need to keep in mind – the only people they’re “helping” are themselves, through petty self-aggrandizement. They’re not contributing to a healthy discussion, they’re wanting to change the topic entirely, and in doing so, hijack the entire movement.