I recently spotted the above graffiti in a toilet at a local pub. Much as I’ve never done graffiti myself, I’ve always been fascinated in what people write. There’s the overtly sexual of course – there’s no escaping that; there’s the racist rants, which I often imagine come from someone who is otherwise quite nice but every now and then likes to let their darker side fly. There’s the jokes, the prose, the philosophical musings and the political polemics.
And then there’s the above.
Maybe a proximity joke, given the location, of course – but maybe the sighing release from someone just full of their own stresses and weary of the world around them.
Why oh why must I act like I give a shit?
I think we’ve all been there once or twice in our lives. Some, more than others. Where you reach that point where you just want to throw your hands in the air and say “f*ck it!” to the world and walk away for a little while.
What we often forget is that we’re entitled to do that, once in a while.
I love social media – I find great satisfaction in being able to interact so readily with a wide variety of people whom it would be otherwise impossible to gather into the same room. Yet, social media can trigger for some the same sort of “TIME OUT NEEDED NOW!” alert so many of us introverts find when we’re being inundated with activities, or surrounded for too long.
In other words, these days it doesn’t matter whether it’s physical or electronic, we can all reach a point from time to time where we feel a little overwhelmed. For some people it may never happen, for others, just once, and for others, it may be a regular occurrence.
But when it happens, it’s important to recognise it, to seize it, and to allow yourself to be selfish. In fact, to not think of it as selfishness, but self preservation. I am important, I need a break, I will focus on me for a while.
Sometimes, those of us left behind when someone chooses to withdraw or focus on themselves can suffer almost a form of abandonment, but we owe it to our friends and loved ones to realise that merely comes from over-thinking and over-analysing the situation. Occam’s razor in particular comes into play – and there’s little more simpler than someone saying TIME OUT!
When it comes to self preservation, there’s nothing wrong with being selfish from time to time.